Competing for the hotties...

At least some of you are probably wondering - how do I get the "hotties" to respond?

Well, anyone who's read my welcome package knows how difficult it can be. Attractive women get a lot of attention on eHarmony. More than they can reasonably handle. So, if an attractive woman isn't replying to your communication... relax. Don't take it personally. She's probably getting hammered with requests for communication, and may not have even had the opportunity to read your profile.

The good news? Most of the men who are approaching them act like suck-ups. And, usually, it's not the type of man that they really want.

So, how can you put this situation in your favor?

First of all - respect her time and effort. Put up photos that demonstrate your personality. That you're social, interesting, that you take good care of yourself, and that you're worth persuing. Because it only takes a few seconds to look at your photos, and it can be a fast way in (or out) with a woman who may not have the time to read the whole profile.

Also, keep your profile short and casual. Put out your lines of intrigue, demonstrate your personality... but don't spend long, and don't oversell. Selective women are suspicious of braggarts and people who are trying too hard to meet them.

Finally, and most importantly... Don't act like you're already impressed, or already sold. Because, in the end, attractive women want to be treated normally. They have plenty of men who will "suck up" in order to get their phone number. Don't do that. Get to know her. Decide if she has things that intrigue you about her, other than her looks.

Because, to an attractive woman... a self-confident man who will treat her with the respect she earns is a rare thing indeed.

Want an example? I'll give you one tomorrow...