A lot of people moan about how eHarmony is a very slow process. However, if you complete your profile and structured communication in the ways that I've stated, you've eliminated some of the biggest blocks in the dating process.
Normally, pick-up artists describe how it's necessary to attract a woman's interest, and get her to invest in seeking your approval.
Guess what? If you're on a date with someone you've met on eHarmony... 99% of the work is already done.
Meet with a handshake. And do just enough smalltalk to get her feeling a little less stressed, and a little more comfortable.
Some of my favorite topics?
Ask about eHarmony - what made her come to it? What have been some of her most awkward moments? Did she try other dating services first? What were the horror stories?
... and I'm sure she's got a million questions. Start answering some of them. Usually, she'll politely ask if you have any. I usually reply, "Well, of course I do. But I like to see what questions you'll ask". And answering this way should keep her from probing too deeply.
Ask specifics about her profile... about things that seemed interesting. Get her to tell stories.
And while you're talking to her, watch your posture. Lean back, not forward.
And watch for signs of interest. They'll come very quickly. Often within 10 minutes. You've done a lot of groundwork in the communication process.
Some of the most commonly cited indicators of interest? Her leaning forward in response to your leaning back. Asking questions when invited. If you're not at a table, her turning to you in order to talk. Her scanning her eyes up and down as she talks. Signs of "nervous" behavior. Maybe even her "tapping" or brushing against you.
If she's showing interest... you need to start establishing playful physical contact. Quickly. Or she'll assume that you aren't interested in her. (Believe me, I've blown this many times...)
... and, I think that's a good topic for tomorrow.
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