Zen, and the art of answering eHarmony questions

In the pick-up artist community, people talk a lot about "shit tests". Usually, the community recommends "cocky and funny" dodges.

Which works fine, when you're trying to reassure a woman that you're not interested in anything other than sex with her.

But, to a relationship-minded woman... it just doesn't work.

The fact is, when most men are asked questions on eHarmony, they try to avoid giving answers - because they don't want to offend a woman who's "on the line". And they can be cocky and funny too.

So, if you try a pickup technique here... you look exactly like the average wussbag.

So, what do you do?

It's time to think about this... like a Zen master.

She's throwing the, "Do you meet my standards" question at you.

You can attack her - and look defensive. Which makes her think you don't have what it takes.

You can do a cocky and funny dodge. But that will make her think you're a weenie.

Or, you can answer the question in a carefree, unhurt way.

It's a great move. You've sucked her power away. You're not even trying to meet her standards, or even look like you are.

In fact, you're telling her who you are - and asking her if she can deal with you.

So, now... you own the test.

And if you don't know the answer? Say so. But say why. Again, in a carefree, unhurt way.

It's counterintuitive. But it works like a charm. I get complimented all the time about the answers I provide.

It's a refreshing change from the usual wussbag responses.