Making a style overhaul

If you've improved your hygiene (like in yesterday's article), you should be noticing some significant improvements in your appearance - and your success in obtaining better eHarmony photos and dates.

But, for some people, improving your hygiene is not enough. Some people are in a "comfort zone" in their style. They've had the same hairstyle, and worn the same clothing for years. But, over time, you start to blend into the background.

Unfortunately, when you blend into the background... it's hard to generate interest.

One quote that I've taken from Mystery is, "If you're not getting compliments on your clothing on a regular basis, it's not good enough." I'd extend that even further, to hairstyle, and accessories.

One approach that I took in overhauling my style (which I've adapted from the StyleLife Challenge, while it was running) is to take the style overhaul a step at a time.

Find your weakest link - whether it's hair, clothes, eyeglasses, or whatever.

Let's say it's your clothes. Start asking people to recommend where the best Men's clothing stores are. Don't just ask anyone. The best referrals come from women who are as good looking (or better) than the people you are looking to date. The next best referrals come from men who regularly attract the women you'd like to attract.

If you don't know anyone... ask strangers. Tell them you're new to town. You'll be surprised about how friendly (and helpful) people can be when you ask them for advice. And they'll probably take your solicitation as a compliment.

Now, after taking your survey, see what store was recommended the most. If you can, avoid single label stores (such as Gap, Banana Republic, etc.). And, if people have mentioned a store that is NOT a national chain, that would be best. (Unfortunately,these stores are a dying breed.)

If you've got a particularly helpful, enthusiastic, and style-conscious friend... ask them to shop with you. If not, find an attractive female salesman.

Tell them that you're looking to find a set of clothes that are "completely different" from what you usually wear. If they ask about the occasion, tell them that you need to dress up to attend a fashion show. And don't let her talk you into making selections - insist that your friend or the salesperson make them. And if the saleswoman won't do it, find another saleswoman.

Try on all the clothes. Be VERY fussy about how the clothes fit. If they don't fit fantastically well, don't buy them.

Start with one set of clothes. And wear them once in awhile.

If you've followed my advice... you're making a departure from your usual "comfortable" fashions. It's going to feel weird at first. But, when you change your clothes, you'll probably notice people treating you differently. Salespeople are more friendly. Strangers will engage you in conversation more. You'll get compliments. That's how you know that you're on the right track.

Over time, get more outfits. Solicit recommendations for a hair stylist, and tell them to do something "completely different" for you.

Do this... and you're off to a good start.