The Holiday List

When you start doing well on eHarmony, you'll start building a collection of women, who, for whatever reason, aren't quite ready for what you want.

Maybe you've had some great pre-date banter, but, before the first meet-up, she lets you know that she decided to get into an exclusive relationship with someone else.

Maybe, during the first date, she seemed okay, but preoccupied with other problems and not ready for what you want.

Maybe she suddenly stopped responding to your emails, and offered no explanation.

Maybe she was likeable, but the chemistry wasn't quite there.

There can be a number of reasons why a woman might be close... but not quite where you want them.

Guess what? You don't need to throw them out completely.

Here's a little technique that's worked well for me.

When holidays come around, I scour the internet for interesting videos, cards, anecdotes, or other things that relate to the upcoming holiday.

I pick the one I like the best, and send it to all of my friends and acquaintances. And I include the "near miss" women in that list.

It's amazing how often women, who might have left you cold in the past, will respond. And try to reengage you.

And, suddenly, the chase is back on. With them chasing you.

After all... you were just sending a friendly note that you send to all your acquaintances, yes?