In my blog, I've been explaining how to project qualities that most women find desirable. Confidence. The ability to be yourself, without fear of rejection. Self-value, and the desire not to give yourself away to just anyone.
When people are beginning to integrate these ideas, they often try to broadcast them in the profile.
That's a mistake.
For example, a lot of people try to integrate Neil Strauss's "Beauty is common" routine in their profile. (The essence of which is to say that you're unimpressed by beauty - you need more if your attention is going to be raised.)
The trouble is... anyone can say that. In fact, saying it makes you look defensive. Or like you have an axe to grind against people who are attractive.
And, the fact is, you don't need to say this.
Which is more convincing - they guy who says boring, generic, inoffensive things but puts "beauty is common" in his profile? Or the guy who saw the photo, answers questions fearlessly, and asks deep, insightful questions during phase 3?
When you say too much about your standards, you come off as defensive and unfriendly. Be subtle. And be the alpha-dog, don't just talk about it.
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