The physical relationship: Just another trust bridge?

Lately, I've been elucidating an "attachment model" that is more conducive to the formation of long-term relationships than most models of seduction.

Every model has it's strengths and weaknesses. While my "attachment model" is good at helping people understand the state of attachment in a relationship, it speaks much less to the physical relationship than standard models.

In fact, it's barely an afterthought. The physical relationship is not an attachment landmark. And it doesn't occupy a specific space in the attachment model.

So, where does it work in the model?

If you're entering Phase 2 attachment, she will want to kiss you, unless she's got a lot of psychological baggage. Be confident in that. Much has been written in the seduction literature about giving her a little less than she'd like... I'll leave that to your judgment.

As far as sex is concerned? I've summarized community lore before, and those observations are still pretty accurate.

In the attachment model? It's just another Phase 2 trust bridge.

Be confident. She'll have sex with you when:

• The chemistry is there.
• It's congruent with her (and your) value system.
• She's comfortable that she isn't giving herself away to just anyone.
• She's comfortable that you won't make her feel ashamed.
• She's comfortable that you won't think it represents a deeper level of attachment than she's comfortable in having.
  

But, yes, women want sex just as much as we do. And it isn't that big a deal, unless you make it one.

Like I said. It's just another trust bridge.