What's the right answer to ________?

One of the most common questions that beginners ask me is how to answer specific eHarmony questions.

There are very few bad questions... but this is one of them. Because, once you ask this question, you've already identified your problem.

You're trying to impress her with a "perfect" answer.

You're modifying your behavior for the approval of a woman that you've never met.

And quality women can smell this attitude from a mile away.

They don't like it. They realize that you're being a phony.

And they stop responding.

Because they realize that high-quality guys don't try to impress. High-quality guys are trying to find the right woman for them.

They give direct, honest answers. They let the woman get a taste of what they're really like.

And if a woman doesn't like his honest answer?

High-quality guys don't mind at all. Because there are lots of women who will like their answer. And they are relieved that they don't have to have to bear through a crappy date with someone that doesn't hold his interest.

So - stop worrying about your answer. And just give it to her.

As I (and many other folks in the community) always say, "No fear".