Wednesday, May 2, 2007

Navigating "the high"

You've been through the courting period - and you clearly like each other.

It's a great feeling.

Not only is it the stuff of poetic inspiration... it's a scientifically validated fact.

During the first six months to a year, your relationship causes your brain to synthesize neurotransmitters providing you with that sense of romantic bliss.

Enjoy the rush... because it's not permanent.

If you're unlucky, you might get an email newsletter, where Neil Clark Warren tells you that he's fully confident that it's safe for you to make a marriage proposal within the first two months of your relationship.

I just can't agree. You're still on a chemical high. And it clouds your thinking.

So, how do you navigate this period?

Enjoy it. Don't do anything stupid. And don't sacrifice your well-being for the sake of the high.

In the courting period, I recommended a mental frame of, "I'm interested in a relationship... but I'm not sure if I even like you yet."

In this phase, the frame changes. You like her... but you don't really know her yet. And time will tell.

So, what happens after the high wears off? That's coming tomorrow.

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