Tuesday, May 8, 2007

Musterbation - how it can be deadly to your mental game.

One common theme I've noticed from people who are unsuccessful with women, both on and off off eHarmony? They're quick to complain about how women act. Common themes? "They should...", "Why don't they....", "Don't they realize..."

So, because you're doing badly, you can claim to know what's best for other women? I don't think so.

I call this attitude "musterbation". And it's a barrier to your mental well-being. Because you can't allow your self-esteem to be dictated by what a woman decides to do, or what not to do.

Does a woman have to provide photos? No. And you have the right to decide whether you want to meet with a woman who won't provide them. (But, tomorrow, I'll share something I've done that provides a nice nudge in the right direction...)

Does a woman have to respond to your requests for communication? No. If you're talking about a few... well, some women aren't going to like you. And you don't want to waste time or energy with women who don't show interest. And if it's most women... it's still not their fault. It's probably because you're doing something that's failing to attract interest.

Does a woman have to respond in a certain timeframe? No, but you don't have to waste time on sluggards.

You can't control what women are going to do. You can only control how you behave. So, behave with dignity and self-respect.

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