Don't be a creepy guy!

I hesitated to write this column - I thought it was painfully obvious. But, every once in awhile, I do see men who feel guilty about communicating with, or dating multiple women.

Don't feel guilty. Women expect that you will be talking to several women at the same time. And they're probably talking to several men, as well.

In fact, most women feel uncomfortable with men who form an "exclusive" relationship with someone that they haven't even met yet. It really makes you look creepy.

There's a time to be in an exclusive relationship (unless you want the pick-up artist life)... but it comes after you've met, and after you're sure that she's worth it. Not before.

And while we're on the subject... another thing that gives women the creeps is a bad attitude about dating.

All of your eHarmony activities... it's about meeting people.

And on the first date, it's not about whether you're "scoring". All you're doing is meeting someone new. If you hit it off, great. If not, it's really no loss. If you're following my advice, you're not spending a lot on dates - in fact, you're doing something that you'd do for fun anyway, with or without her.

When you display an agenda, reveal expectations, or you're focused on any goal other than getting to know her a little better, you're putting way too much pressure on her. And it's going to give her the creeps.

Just meet her, see if you're getting along. If you're following my advice, and it doesn't work out... you should have plenty more options.

Now that you're understanding this (and the last post), I'm finally ready to start to talk about match selection... coming tomorrow.