Why "failure" MUST be an option

One common error that I see in people learning seduction techniques, is the search for "gimmicks" to turn a bad situation around.

Message boards are filled with questions - What can I do to get this person's attention back? How do I recover from the date she flaked out on? We "vibed" well, so what do I need to do to get over her resistance in giving up her phone number?

Unfortunately, anyone who asks these questions has already made a critical strategic mistake.

The problem? When you can't accept "no" for an answer, you're scaring her.

And when you work hard to chase someone... you simply can't get her to invest in meeting you. Because you're making all the effort.

So, if you're in a bad situation... give her an opportunity to pick up the chase, and move on.

She's not giving her number? Respond a week later, saying you can't keep up with email, and give yours. Ball's in her court. She can chase... or not.

She's not answering the phone? Text her, "Phone tag, you're it." It's her move.

And if she doesn't make a move? She's not that interested.

You need to be using your energies to manage the women who are interested in you. Not the ones who aren't.

And if not enough women are interested... that's a sign that you need to work on building that initial intrigue.

And not on building interest in the ones who are already disinterested.

Quirky Girl Says:
It can be extremely difficult to give up on a person you feel you bonded with, especially if you've invested a fair amount of time in her. However, Scott is right. Cut your losses and move on. It's hard to give up on a person when you feel there's a spark there, but there has to be mutual interest and commitment for the relationship to ever be successful. And you're not only scaring her with your persistence; you're making yourself look bad. I'm not saying to give up at the drop of a hat; in fact, Scott's suggestions are spot-on. If she's interested, she'll respond. If she doesn't respond, that should speak volumes.

A couple can only be as happy as the least happy person in the relationship. (I admit that I got this from a sitcom, but I absolutely believe it.) A one-sided relationship never works out. In the end, you feel emotionally drained and resentful because you give and give and give, and she takes without returning your feelings. I've been there. I've made this mistake. It can only make you miserable because you pour more of yourself into the "relationship" and end up in the same place--alone--but now you've wasted more time and energy, detracting from your efforts to find someone who can return your feelings. Do yourself a favor--accept "no" and find someone more interested and more deserving of your affections.