Do women WANT to meet men on eHarmony?

It's the classic swan-call of the frustrated eHarmony user.

You've put up a profile. You've asked for communications.

Maybe a few start communication, but they never seem to agree to the phone or meeting.

At this point, men start asking themselves, "Do women really spend $60 a month, put time and effort into answering a long personality profile, put up photos, and go through a long process of guided communication just to be online chat buddies?"

I imagine some women do. Some may just want the ego satisfaction of having guys chasing them.

In my experience? They're a small minority.

And, when you ask yourself that question... you're not seeing things from their perspective.

What is their perspective?

Most of the time, it's, "Why is this guy so all-fired hot for me, when we don't really know anything about each other yet? Is he really like what he says he is on the profile, or is he just saying anything in the hopes of meeting someone? And if he's chasing me, am I sure it's safe to give my phone number? And if I meet him, and he's as clingy as he seems... am I just headed into an awkward situation?"

The eHarmony Cracked system is designed to reduce these barriers.

Why are you on eHarmony? You want to meet different people. You don't know her yet. In fact, you're a little suspicious.

In your communications, you're not trying to impress her. You're just seeing if there might be a "vibe". And, if not, no big deal... you've got options.

And you're a busy guy, so the phone is a natural extension. Unless she's not interested... in which case, no big deal.

In short, you're not trying to impress. You're just being friendly, and looking to meet some new people. If the chemistry's there... great. If not, the process of meeting people is fun. Even with the women who fall apart during guided communication.

It's an attitude that's comforting. And different than the one that most men on eHarmony carry.

And when you display that attitude... women will feel comfortable about meeting you.