She's not advancing? It may not be about you...

On eHarmony, no one bats 1.000. It's not a realistic goal.

Think about it for a minute.

First of all, there are the "dead profiles". Women who were curious enough to complete the relationship questionnaire, and take a look at a few matches, but weren't curious enough to spend money on the service.

I can understand that. And a woman who isn't motivated enough to pay for membership is a woman I'm happy enough not to meet.

But let's go further than that.

Some go a little further, but are still not really interested in meeting someone online. Gift certificates from meddling parents and friends are common. Free Communication weekends will bring in some Looky-Lous. And, yes, many of these people are using the service in order to tell someone they "tried it" - not because they're really interested.

So... be thankful that these people don't waste your time.

After we've gone through those people... There will be folks who won't like your profile. You may not be their type, physically. Or they don't like the things that you're passionate about.

You'll do it too. Sometimes, people realize very quickly that they just aren't interested. Do you really want to chase someone who's so sure that they can't get into you? I don't think so.

And, when you go through communications, you may also hit a deal-killer. Or just run into someone who's so sensitive that they can't go through the process without melting down. Or just get so overwhelmed with something outside of their dating life that they're unable to continue.

And, again, when they stop their eHarmony communications... they're doing you a favor.

Finally, women do have a lot of options. Another guy might have met her sooner. Or she may have met someone offline. So... she may cut off communication because she found someone else.

And that's fine. You'll do it to a few women too.

In short - you just can't get too upset when a woman stops communicating.

There's usually a reason. And it's a reason to stop sinking further efforts into something that's, at best, futile. And at worst? You're drawing closer to someone with serious flaws.

Say good-bye gracefully. And put your efforts into meeting women that are interesting and interested.