Where do fast tracks fit?

Hopefully, by this time, you're seeing how the eHarmony system can be used in your favor. By going through guided communication, you're forcing a woman to work for your continued interest.

You'll notice that I haven't talked much about using "Fast track".

That's because I almost never use it.

I've experimented with "fast track" offers during phase 1 and 2 of communication. I've never had anyone accept the fast track. Most of the time, they'll close.

When I talked with women about men who propose "fast track" this soon in the process - they hold a very dim view. They say that it shows that a guy isn't really all that interested in learning about them first. You look too needy, too eager, and too easy to please. And very few women will lower themselves to talking to a needy, desperate man.

Astute readers might ask, "Could you write a message that will make them know that you're not desperate? That you're just interested in talking like normal people instead of little eHarmony robots?"

I like that thinking. Unfortunately, the answer is still no.

The problem is... women can't read the message until they accept the fast track. So, your message will not make any difference. They'll reject you before they read it.

Other astute readers probably noticed something else.

I only talked about fast track during phases 1 and 2.

Can a fast track request fly during phase 3?

Yes. Your odds aren't 100%, but the odds are in your favor.

But, there's a catch.

Phase 3 is one of the most powerful weapons you have in building attraction. By asking skillful questions, you can create tension, display that you're a man with standards, and associate yourself with things that make her feel good.

And when you make a fast-track request... you're giving up that opportunity. And you're showing a little bit of overeagerness.

So, yes, they often accept the fast track request. But, because of that missed step, women will act flakier. They'll insist (or try to insist) on protracted email communication. They'll play hard to get. They'll flake out on dates.

Can it be worth it? Maybe for very special occasions. For example, if I'm in her town that day, leaving soon, and not planning to return for quite some time... it might make sense to hurry the process along.

But, otherwise... I prefer to stick to structured communication.