Friday, June 1, 2007

About Pre-Date Banter

Sometimes, our busy lives can get in the way of meeting our eHarmony matches as soon as we'd like. I've often had to wait a couple of weeks before I could meet my matches in their hometown.

It's a tricky situation. On one hand, suspending communication for weeks (until you meet) makes a woman think you're not interested in her at all. The "sour grapes" syndrome hits... And it's highly likely that she'll flake on the date.

On the other hand, long talks where you build comfort, but don't share the physical contact that implies sexual interest is a fast-track to the "friend zone".

So, those don't work... what does?

I look at this period as an opportunity to build tension further.

It's a period where you can build the illusion that she'll get to know you better... but, you're only giving her more questions to ask, and providing few answers.

And it can drive the pre-date tension through the roof. In a good way.

I'll start sharing on Monday.

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