Open Communication: This MIGHT be interesting...

A lot of you have been following my eHarmony Open Communication templates, with great success.

But, templates can feel restrictive after awhile. And, soon, you'll probably want to "wing it" a little bit.

And that's a good thing. So, for a little while, let's talk about the elements that make the Open Communication template work.

The first? Showing a proper attitude toward the woman.

As I've mentioned, a lot of guys, when they hit open communication, start to smother the woman with how "perfect" they are, and how they have absolutely so much in common.

And most women find that talking to a guy who's already that "sold" into a relationship, before even meeting, can be a really scary thing.

On the other hand, she's put a lot of effort into communication. So, if you're starting to show that you're disapproving, or you're completely unimpressed... you're headed toward "sour grapes" land.

Your position, obviously, should be between these two extremes.

So, here's where the templates sit - and where you should sit as well.

You've gone through her efforts. Your curiosity is mildly piqued about a few things. You want to find out more.

And you're a little suspicious. A lot of people say that they're things that they're not. So you're looking for consistency. So, you're asking a few more questions, in a friendly manner, just to give her an opportunity to show that she's the "real deal".

This attitude is reassuring to most women - and it's very appropriate. Which is why I've incorporated it into my template.

Of course, there are more ingredients to this "secret sauce". And I'll talk more tomorrow...