"No Fear" - a new way to handle shit tests.

As the original "pick-up artists" began their experiments on how to get women to respond to them in bars, they noticed that attractive women would tend to "block them out" if they sensed that a guy was doing things for her only because of physical attraction.

If a guy approached a woman in a normal, unimpressed manner, they noticed that women would test them to see if they if they were really unimpressed.

For example, they might ask the guy to buy her a drink. Or make other requests. Just to see if the guy would respond like all of the other "men" who do what she'll say just because she's attractive.

This got called, "The Shit Test." And the pickup artists devised a lot of methods for deflecting (instead of responding to) these tests.

Which leads to eHarmony questioning. A lot of pick-up artists may take offense at my advice in how to respond to questions. They see them as "shit-tests", which need to be avoided or deflected.

My response? Avoiding structured questions is usually unnecessary. In fact, it's counterproductive.

Yes, in some ways, these are shit-tests. The average chump, when faced with a difficult question, tries to weasel out in a way that no woman can be offended by the answer.

And if you take the average chump's stance (avoiding the question), you'll probably be ignored.

So, don't be an average chump.

For example, take a look at yesterday's question. The average guy, when asked how patient he'll be, will say, "as long as I need to be."

But, you're different. You provided an answer. And you set a stand.

Now, if she's going to meet you, she needs to meet your standard.

Now, she needs to meet your shit test.

More profile-building advice tomorrow.

P.S. Yes, if a woman really asks for something inappropriate, you have a right to say "no", or use any other pickup artist deflection technique. But this rarely happens. Most women are too lazy to send anything different than the standard questions. Which, again, is a way to prove that you have higher standards than her. More about that later.