Elements of Confidence

For the next mental attribute, I'll cover that big "C" - Confidence.

A lot of seduction literature stresses the importance of confidence, but doesn't describe how you demonstrate confidence in your interactions. So... here's a summary.

Confidence to be selective
You aren't the typical guy, who's looking for just anyone. You are looking for the right person. And you aren't going to know whether someone is right for a good long time.

In the meantime, you're having fun. But if she's not what you're looking for... you know that it's time to move on. And you know that you deserve, and can get, what you want.

What do you want? That depends on you.

Confidence to be genuine
You're not out to impress her. You're just a guy who's being himself, and having a good time. Whatever that means to you.

If she has a good time with you? Great. She's passing your tests.

If she's not? Next.

Confidence to advance the relationship
You can read a woman's signals, and you're comfortable with advancing the relationship when things are ready.

Establishing touch is a sign of comfort, not a sign of conquest.

When a woman's being flirtatious, you're comfortable and confident in your abilities.

When the time is right, you can take the lead.

And if you make a mistake? You don't get upset. You can even laugh about it.

Not there yet? It comes with practice. Keep pluggin'.