Okay, since I've covered the "nice guys" topic yesterday, it seems like I'd be remiss in not talking about "Bad boys". Even if it's it's becoming a seduction cliche, I imagine it still maddens a lot of our beginning readers.
It is a cliche. But it's a cliche because it is a universal rallying point for the nice guys of the world. It's the usual statement, "Why do women want to be with jerks?"
Well, yesterday's article explained why women don't like to be with "nice guys". It's because women don't see them as"nice". They see them as manipulative guys with hidden agendas.
Jerks and man-whores don't have hidden agendas. They let women know, quickly, what it is they want from a woman.
Now, this may come as a surprise to some of you (and as no surprise to others)... Most healthy women have a strong libido. And they like to get laid too. Maybe even more than men do.
And when a woman wants a no-nonsense shag... she ain't gonna pick the "nice guy" with the hidden agenda. Those guys make things much too complicated.
She'll pick the guy who makes it clear that getting laid doesn't mean anything other than having a good time. A guy who will make her feel good, even if it's solely as an object of sexual desire. And who won't make her feel ashamed or dirty for having a healthy sexual appetite.
And, in that way, they're much safer than the nice guys.
So, why shouldn't you be a man-slut or bad boy?
They have their advantages. If you want to get laid as often as possible, by as many women as possible... standard pick-up advice will get you there.
But these approaches will kill your ability to form a long-term relationship - which is what most of my readers want.
The universal pick-up statement on long-term relationships? "If I meet the woman that I can't live without, then I'll stop."
The problem? People tend to coast on mental inertia.
When you see each other as no-nonsense, minimal-attachment sex objects, it becomes very difficult to shift that mindset.
And in the world of the pick-up artists, I'm not hearing any field reports from men who have really found that one special woman.
So, being a "nice guy" doesn't work. And the "man-whore/bad boy" will find it very hard to shift gears into a committed relationship. So, what's a guy to do?
Relax. I'll really start talking about what's working for me tomorrow.
Sorry about the false start.
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