From the lab: Ask them to expand their interests!

Although questions about relationship (and relationship potential) aren't gathering the enthusiastic responses that they used to, we still want ask questions during phase three that accomplish the goals we've already set:

1. To display that you're paying attention. You're not just hitting on every woman who enters phase three. You're much more selective than that.
2. To get them to talk about things that make them feel good.

Well, by the time you've hit phase three of guided communication, you should have some ideas about the subjects that make them feel good. They've usually at least tried to bring up some passions. They've given you a list of things they can't live without. And you have a list of must haves.

So... call them on it. Ask for more detail. If they say that they're passionate about "putting a smile on people's faces", ask them to tell you a story about how they did that during the week. If they put "Must have a partner who is engaged in the community", ask them about what they do.

You're showing interest, attention, and selectivity. And, unless she isn't passionate about the things she's talking about... she should enjoy answering the question.

And if she's not... do you really want to hang with her?

Another "trick" tomorrow...