As I've mentioned, a lot of advice about online dating is what I refer to as "etiquette-based" advice.
The advice isn't based upon what's effective, or what makes you look best. It's based on what seems proper or polite.
One bit of etiquette-based advice that has been repeated is that you should have clear, honest photos of you standing alone, with no other people (especially other women!), and no distractions.
I suppose it's "polite" for a photo to provide a realistic view of how you look. And I don't disagree with that. Deceptive photos may provide some short-term benefits, but will absolutely kill any chance you have on a date with someone.
But appearing alone against a blank background? My experience shows that such photos can harm your photos' effectiveness.
As I've pointed out before, photos can show a lot more than just how you look.
They demonstrate your genuineness. If you've described yourself as a rugged outdoorsman - a photo can show that you're not just engaging in fantasy.
And, when other people are in the photo, they demonstrate that you're social. Which is an important quality for most women.
Let your pictures demonstrate your personality. Not just your appearance.
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