In the "tampon" zone? Step 2 - Stop rewarding bad behavior!

But, even when people are given yesterday's sage advice, they often ask another question:

"Is there anything that I can say now to build attraction, and convince her what a great guy I am?"

Here's the problem: When you try to "say something to get her attention", you're giving her exactly what she wants.

Right now, she sees you as a safe source of attention to turn to when she feels like her ego needs a little stroking.

And, when you pay attention to her... you're telling her that she can.

In other words, that you'll still be an emotional tampon for her.

So, in the end, all all attempts to demonstrate what a great guy you are... will only make your problem worse.

So, if you want her to stop her from using you this way... you need to stop letting her do it.

And if you're busy finding five more women, and you're busy living your life... this should be easy.

If she wants to be your pen pal, but won't give a phone number? You're busy. You've got other things to do. Tell her you don't have time for that.

If she flakes on a date? Leave. Do something else - with someone else. And, if she calls back and asks to "reschedule", let her know you might squeeze her in again when you're not busy. (... and that might be never.)

Because, when you're too busy to feed the emotionally needy women of the world - they'll stop. And the women who are interested in you will make an effort to spend time with you.