Attachment Phase 0: Do We Enjoy Each Other's Company?

(Note: This model is in development, and carries "Fresh from the lab" status. Further refinements are likely.)

Okay, so you realize, now, that people usually don't instantly go from, "I don't know you" to "I want to be in a relationship with you".

And, yes, pushing a relationship too early can cause bad things to happen. It makes you look like you want a relationship with anyone, and that she should just give that to you without knowing you. And it makes her feel uncomfortable.

So, where does a relationship start? And how does it progress?

I haven't found any good models so far. So, in my experience (which may not be so great - after all, I'm not in a happy marriage), I'll try to build one. And, as time goes on, I'm sure it will be fine-tuned, by myself and the eHarmony Cracked community.

Let's start in the beginning. She's at least interested enough to agree to meet you on a date.

What happens in the very beginning, as far as attachment is concerned?

You don't know each other yet. There's almost no attachment, and no real reason to see attachment occurring yet.

In fact, you don't even know whether you'll enjoy each other's company. So, the first step on the journey is to figure that piece out.

Basically - can you have an enjoyable date with her?

Do you have enough in common to have a good time doing something together?

Is she so uptight (or unattracted) that she can't even flirt with you?

Basically, this would be the "starting point" for all of the seduction models. Tons have been written about how to get someone to like you. And I can't repeat all the methods that the seduction gurus expound.

Find what's right for you.

And have fun. Because, if you can't... she's not passing your test.