So, you're not a jedi master yet?

Yep. I'm back.

Hopefully, during my vacation, you've all had a chance to try out the core ideas of "the system".

You may have reedited your profile, and rechecked it time and time again.

Most of the people who do this start to notice improvements.

But they may still not feel like they're hooking up with the "hot babes" of eHarmony.

Relax.

No one scores 100%. You've read my war journals, so you know that I don't.

And even if I were perfect (which I'm not), I still wouldn't get perfect results.

For one... the "hot babes" are hammered with requests for communication. If you're one of the lucky men who appears on the list first... you'll get attention. If you're the 30th match she's had during the week, you can have a fantastic profile, and your odds still aren't going to be good.

And, of the women who will give your profile a fair shake, some will take offense at the personality you've demonstrated in your profile. If so... you've avoided a bad date. And you should be happy about that.

But, even so... you may still be disappointed.

If you're making no improvement... get some help. Ask friends. Or, submit your profile to me for a profile critique.

But if you're like most people, you're making some improvement.

You may be opening communication with more women... even if they're not as "hot" as you'd like.

You may find yourself opening more... but start having difficulty sustaining their attention throughout guided communication.

Relax.

You're not failing. You're improving.

And you're building momentum.

You're learning what's working. And you're getting experience in figuring out what doesn't.

And, slowly, as you start to succeed, the mental changes will happen.

You'll be more relaxed. And you'll re-edit your profile (yet again) when you're instilled with the confidence that you can be the selector, rather than the selected.

And this attitude will permeate your communication... making it more effective as well.

So, relax. Take your smaller victories for now. You'll build on them.

You don't become a jedi overnight.