Basic comfort theory - and decision making in the field.

One of the classics in the seduction field is the "Mystery model". Despite many of its imperfections, it can be a helpful model for understanding attraction... it's definitely worth a read. And since it's out in mass, it can be had cheaply. You can download it from the website for over $40... or you can order a real book for less than $15. I know which option I'd pick... and, if you don't already have it, you can pick it up at any online bookstore.

Anyway, one aspect of his model that helps make our decision on whether we need to address a "shit test" or true comfort need is to understand her current level of attraction.

According to the Mystery Model (as I understand or interpret it), comfort-building and attraction-building are both necessary in order for a woman to feel like she can advance a relationship. Whatever "advance" means to the two of you, anyway.

When you've got high attraction and low comfort - a woman starts to freak out.

On the other hand, when you're providing comfort in the absence of attraction - the woman thinks that you're a doe-eyed puppydog.

So, when you're wondering whether to answer a question as a "shit test deflection" or a "comfort-building" measure... take a look at what she's asking, and the level of attraction that's there.

If a woman has not displayed any signs of interest, and starts to ask intrusive questions... it's probably a shit test. (And if it happens on an eHarmony date... you need to stick closer to the system.)

If you've made out a few times, and she asks you if you're dating other people... She's going to get awfully uncomfortable if you don't provide an answer. Or just assume that the answer is "yes", but you don't have the balls to talk about it.

Of course, few cases are as simple as these extremes. I'll provide some field cases in my next post... that should make the practice a little clearer.