The second open communication letter

Hopefully, you've received an enthusiastic response to your first eHarmony open communication letter. Now, it's time to respond.

If she picked up on your subtle hint that you'd like to call her sometime, and she said she'd like to talk... Your work is practically done. Just say, "Me too. What's your phone number?" In my experience... you'll get responses like this about half the time.

Otherwise, you need to build the time pressure.

Open the letter with 1-2 sentences addressing what she might have said. You don't have to answer every question and address every issue. In fact, you're about to say that you don't have time to. Don't ask any new questions. Only write sentences that CLOSE questions, and don't open any new topics of conversation.

Open a new paragraph. Now, use that time constraint that you hinted about in the first message, and tell her that, as you feared, you aren't going to be able to keep up with your email. But, you'd still like to talk. And ask for her phone number.

Close by telling her that you're looking forward to talking further.

And, there you go. You've established that your time is valuable, and that, if she wants to continue communication, she must go to the phone.

But what if she doesn't give up her phone number?

It's rare, but it does happen.

We'll talk about that tomorrow.