Building comfort? Or "shit test"?

In a lot of ways, men who are not looking for a serious relationship have an easier time with women.

If a woman is interested in having a "fling", they're looking for all of the characteristics that the pickup artist community teaches. They want a confident man, who doesn't need directions. And, when they do have sex, they don't want the man to think it's a "big deal", or that it means anything. Because, if they're perusing a person with the PUA characteristics, they're not looking for a relationship, either. (Either that... or they're just very stupid. But, most of the time, stupid people are just sad exceptions to the rule.)

When both people want a relationship (with each other, or not), the stakes go up. And a woman is going to want to know a little more about you.

And, when you try to avoid these types of questions, it becomes a barrier to intimacy.

The troubling part? Many women still engage in what the PUA community calls "shit tests". Basically, no-win questions designed to make a man look inconsistent and awkward. Or intrusive questions that, if a man had any self respect, he'd refuse to answer. And if you answer these questions... you look like the desperate men who will say anything to be with a woman.

So, which questions do you want to answer? And which ones are the ones you want to avoid?

Don't worry. It's still pretty simple. We'll talk about it tomorrow.