Monday, April 28, 2008

Profile page one: Leave her with more questions!

As I've mentioned several times before, the "About me" page needs to convey genuineness, and develop intrigue.

How do you develop intrigue?

By telling someone just enough to develop interest, but leave out the answers to the most interesting questions.

Questions that will make her want to hear more. And bear through the communication process.

Some statements may build ease, but do little to increase intrigue.

Saying, "I like to [X, Y and Z]" are statements. They don't really raise new questions.

Saying, "I'm laid-back, easygoing, and intelligent" doesn't do the job either.

Granted, to certain profile questions, these are the best answers. And you can overdo it with the "intrigue" spice. But you'd be foolish not to sprinkle it in.

Do you have photographs of you doing something interesting? Put up the photo, but resist the urge to describe it in your profile. If it's interesting... she'll ask about it.

Start a few stories. If you're an inventor, convey your excitement about your latest invention... but don't tell them what it is yet. (And, guess what? To boot, you've already told her that you're intelligent and creative. So you don't need to reemphasize it.)

If you've had an interesting experience on your last trip, start the story - but don't finish it. For example, "daring my friend to _____" implies a lot of questions. Did you do it yourself? Did you talk him into doing it? What posessed you to do this in the first place?

You get the idea.

Sprinkle these in. If they're effective, women will ask about them.

And if they don't... experiment. Find out what people want to hear more about.

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