On recieving compliments

In the beginning of a relationship, you're still a little bit of a mystery. And if she's starting to show interest... she's also interested in learning more about you.

And, of course, she's going to discover some nice things about you.

She'll want to compliment you. In part, to gain your favor, but, also, to see if her impressions are correct.

Accepting compliments can be hard for a lot of people. Some of us are taught to be humble. We reflexively say, "Oh, it's no big deal." Or, "Oh, not really." Something that dismisses the compliment.

But, if a woman gives you an accurate compliment, and you make one of these dodges... you're doing a lot of things that can hurt the impression that you're making.

Her head starts to spin. She starts thinking about things like, "I thought I saw something good, but he says he's not... Oh. Too bad."

Or, "Was he just trying to look like that to impress me?"

Or, "Why is he so ashamed of it? Where's his pride?"

None of these are good.

So, sure, if she makes a guess about you that's wrong, go ahead and correct her.

But, when she's right, she's trying to verify it. And she'll feel good that she's starting to unravel your mysteries. And it's information that she's earned... so she'll feel closer to you.

So, don't disappoint. Accept compliments graciously. And, if you feel like it, compliment her on her perceptiveness. Or her good taste. Or tease her a little bit after you accept the compliment.

Oh, and if she's into you... she'll repeat her compliment a few times. Or dwell on the subject for awhile.

During those times... she's bonding with you.

Do yourself a favor. Let her do it.