The Weasel Words

In my last section, we talked about how important it was to write a profile that describes yourself, instead of a profile that only demonstrates your fear of describing yourself.

A profile that succeeds in doing that is instantly different from 99% of the other profiles on eHarmony. Writing such a profile makes you look genuine and confident.

Now, it's time to take a look at the profile you have written. I've taught you one "trick" to try to make yourself more confident and interesting... but, still, reducing that fear of evaluation is hard.
Now, it's time to edit your essay, and see where these fears might have gotten the better of you.

Here's a sure sign: When you're saying something about yourself, and you're not sure whether or not the other person will accept it, people inevitably start putting in "Weasel words".

They're the words that say, "I'm like this... but I'm not sure you're going to accept it, so I'll just say I'm 'kinda' like that. That way, if you don't like it, I'm not in trouble."

But, when women see these phrases, they don't see an easygoing guy. They see someone who's so afraid of being rejected that they'll say ANYTHING to keep a woman interested.

Some of the weasel words?

"Sometimes"
"Usually"
"I don't know"
"Many times"
"I tend to"
"I seem to be"
"I try to"
"Quite"
"Often"

Putting conditions on your answers, invariably, weakens them. If a sentence doesn't describe you, don't try to make it more accurate by adding weasel-words, or weasel-phrases. Just replace it with something that DOES describe you accurately.

It's difficult. I had difficulty doing it myself. But every time I started to purge the "weasel lines" from my profile, my results always improved. I'm sure that yours will as well.

Next: You said you need more concrete examples of good answers? You got it. We'll start with our next section.