Nervous about sex? Relax.

There's good and bad in the pick-up artist literature. And one point where I often disagree with the PUAs is in their dogma that the key to developing a long-term relationship with a woman is by giving her an unbelievable sexual experience.

No, I'm not saying that women don't like to have mind-blowing orgasms. And I'm not saying that mechanical sex advice is worthless. They can be helpful in giving you some confidence if you're nervous about your inexperience.

But mechanical advice is exactly that. Mechanical.

And, when it comes to sex, mechanical advice only goes so far.

The fact is, both of you have unique preferences. Everyone's a little different in what sensations they enjoy. And you'd be a fool not to listen to your partner when she tells (or subtly signals) you what makes her feel good.

And the whole, "If you have great sex, she'll keep you forever" thing? Forget about it. If you look at many pick-up artist's lives, you'll see that mind-blowing sex will maintain a woman's interest for awhile. But not forever.

Because, when it comes down to it, sex is only part of the emotional connection that men and women build together. And, without a human connection, even fantastic raging orgasms can become routine and boring.

And, really, if you start listening to women? They'll tell you that they value their connection with you more than the orgasm itself.

So enjoy your relationship. And don't get so hung up on your sexual performance.