Getting to know the "Warrior Woman"

As your results on eHarmony improve, you'll start noticing when (and where) to make small changes to get better results with certain women.

One common type of woman that may take a little adjustment is, what seduction Guru Dr. Paul calls "The warrior".

"Warrior women", in his scheme, are accomplishment-oriented. And they relish relationships with people who respect their accomplishments.

They can be great girlfriends. On a whole, they tend to be "earthy", accomplished, bright, and results-oriented. They're direct - you won't have to play head games with them to get their real opinions on things. And, because they're accomplishment-oriented, they often enjoy and relate to "guy stuff" that other women have difficulty understanding.

But, like stereotypical warriors, they can be a bit touchy. Quick to go to war. Because warriors like to feel powerful, and in command of their destinies.

And, because of this, some guys don't like warriors. Which is fine. But a lot of guys do.

So, how can you avoid going to war against the warrior?

Here are some pointers:

A good "first sign" that you might be dealing with a warrior? She talks about some accomplishment on your profile that she respects. She then starts bragging about her accomplishments. Consider this a sign of interest. She's unlikely to emotionally gush.

Warriors like to be their own leaders, and fight people who they see as trying to control them. Idealization can still take place though - warriors still admire strong, confident men. And they value these men as companions. But not authorities. So you'll need to back off the "dominance" stuff. Because, with a warrior, you don't want to fight for dominance.

If a fight is starting - back off. Work on your mirroring and twinship. Keep giving her the message, "I respect your uniqueness and passion." Unless you're dealing with a deal-breaker, agree to respectfully disagree. Don't fight.

And, In general, mirroring and twinship are much better tools for developing a relationship with a warrior. You want to be idealizable enough to be respected... but she values understanding and respect (and, occasionally, alternative perspectives) from the man that she respects.