"It just happened..."

Okay, you've got a woman that you like.

And, good news? She likes you too. The chemistry is definitely there.

And a lot of you have read my "attachment model", where I described what "relationship phases" you should look for.

The question many people ask is, "How do you move up in the attachment model?"

First of all, if you're having difficulty moving from Phase 2 to Phase 3, you might want to read the seduction literature on "comfort building". Particularly the use of "freeze outs".

But, one thing that people often do to stall relationship progress is to ask about it.

They like how they feel. And talking about it will make them feel it less.

And if a guy is pushing for something that they're not feeling... it starts to get weird.

So, in general, it's best not to talk about the next steps.

If you feel ready to move things to the next level? Act like you are. Don't ask.

If you're seeing each other a lot, and you're not dating other people... it's exclusive.

If you want her to meet your friends, invite her to something that you're doing with them.

If you want her to meet your family... invite her to something that you're doing with them.

If you're ready to have sex with her... bring her to your place, turn the lights down, and start gettin' it on.

If she's not ready for what you want? Freeze her out for awhile. (As I've mentioned before, I consider the "freeze out" a kindness, not a punishment.) But don't beg.

Women, in general, like the fantasy of the relationship "just happening".

Give them the fantasy. And sweep them off their feet.

Don't beg them off their feet.