What's the opposite of a bribe?

For a long time now, I've been telling guys one important thing - on eHarmony (and in life), you attract women by being who you are, not on what you give her.

In fact, "bribes" are actually counterproductive. If it's a particularly attractive bribe, a woman might take it. But she'll attribute any good feelings she has to the bribe - not you.

Recently, in fact, I've found an article about a company that uses bribes in a different way.

After the first week of training... they offer their new employees $1000 to quit the job now.

They say that it's because they only want to keep people who are dedicated to the company, and to what they've learned in the week of training.

But, in my humble opinion - it's a brilliant psychological technique.

You see, for even for their lowest-paid employees, quitting the job (and taking the $1000) would give them a week and a half of pay. It's unlikely that they'd find another good job that quickly.

But when they stay? They remember that, to keep the job, they turned away the $1000 bribe.

And my guess is they justify this by telling themselves that the job, itself, has value.

Now, don't get me wrong here. I don't think that offering women bribes to stay away would be practical.

But when a woman starts to have good feelings when she's with you, and you haven't spent money on gifts or fancy evenings out... you've only given them one reason to have those feelings.

It's because you're a heck of a guy.