Debunking the "Three Day Rule"

It's the age-old question. Thanks to our guided communication templates, you've quickly snagged her phone number.

Now - how fast should you call?

Guys have been overthinking this question for years. In a lot of guys' minds, calling "too soon" signals overexcitement and desperation. And, in the movie, "Swingers", the idea of the "three day rule" was popularized. (For those who've been sitting under a rock for the last decade - the "three day rule" is to call the woman three days after exchanging phone numbers.)

And, if you follow the seduction literature, there are a lot of gurus who advocate the same advice. Some even advocate waiting even longer, so you don't look like a "three day rule" guy.

So... how long should you wait before calling her?

Again, I'll let the seduction gurus speak for themselves on what works in the bars, and on other online personals sites. But, in my experience... the "Three day rule" just doesn't work on eHarmony.

Because, almost every time that I've tried to wait before making the phone call... things got weird.

Women got more nervous, and more flakey. Or, they tried to play "timing" games with me.

So, in my hands, anyway, the "Three day rule" (or for that matter, four or five day rules) just doesn't work.

So, when should you call?

Don't overthink it. Pick a convenient time. For me, early evenings have been reliable. Picking up the phone minutes (or 1-2 hours) after she leaves her email does seem soon, but I haven't actually experimented with that. However, I would try to call within 24 hours. 36 is pushing it.

Is your experience different? Leave a comment.