What happens when you list your accomplishments?

One problem with a lot of men's eHarmony profiles is that they look a lot like resumes.

They list accomplishments.

In the "What are you passionate about", they take a moment to brag about something they did. Or provide a list of things that they do.

When they're asked, "What do you like to do", they give sterile lists of things that they're able to do.

This is okay (to some extent), when you're looking for a job. You want to demonstrate that you're qualified to fill the position.

But, you're not looking for a job... it's an approach that comes off a little strangely.

Frankly, why are you seeking the approval of strangers?

Why do you need to make anonymous women find your accomplishments acceptable?

And, if you're this hungry for approval before you meet her (or during the date), what are you going to be like in a relationship?

An ever-hungry, approval-seeking leech?

That's unattractive, to say the very least.

"But, if I'm not going to list my accomplishments in my profile, or on my date, what do I do instead?"

Let's talk about that tomorrow.