Still have a flaw? Seek guidance.

One classic mistake that I discussed in Friday's article is how people often act when they see themselves as having a flaw that they feel will make them have problems finding the woman they're looking for.

The first step people often make? Trying to hide it.

And, as we said on Friday, that usually makes problems worse.

So, you're done hiding. But it's still out there. You're not calling attention to the "problem" by hiding it. You're not making excuses, or holding it out as a weakness.

But it's still causing problems.

Now, think about it for a minute.

Is your problem really that unique?

Are you sure you're the only guy out there with this "problem"?

Of course not.

And I bet that, somewhere out there, there are plenty of guys who who've already figured out how to do well. In spite of your "problem".

Find them.

Figure out why they've been successful, in spite of the flaw that you share.

Odds are, some of their solutions may work for you.