Humor: How to use it

Speaking of the things that women say they like... a sense of humor is a common one.

And, yes, a sense of humor is a good thing.

A guy's capacity for humor says a lot about his strength as a human being. That he can face adversity with a smile. That he's social. That he can influence the emotions of others.

All good, idealizable traits.

Unless it's done wrong.

The fact is... yes, a lot of women's profiles and must haves/can't stands lists include humor.

So, as a response, many men try to be funny.

They'll say (and often repeat) in their profiles how funny they are, without demonstrating any humor. Which, immediately, seems ingenuine.

Or, they'll force a joke into the context of their profile or communications. Which makes them look like they're desperate to create some kind of appeal. And, in the process, destroying any idealization they've built.

Can humor be used in a profile? Absolutely. But it should be a subtle spice. It should look spontaneous, not forced.

And, if you're going to use humor, you need to demonstrate it. Not just tell people that you're funny.

Because, let's face it. A guy who has to say that he's funny... probably isn't.