"Milestones", and why they shouldn't matter!

A common theme to questions on the Google Group, lately, has been, "I'm having trouble with (a milestone)."

In fact, I answered one specific question recently.

It seems like these "milestones" cause a lot of problems with guys.

Getting the phone number. Getting the first date. Getting the first kiss. When she's "officially" a girlfriend. Having sex for the first time. Meeting the family. The list goes on and on.

The funny thing is? Most of the time, the barriers are in the guy's mind.

Bottom line, when a girl likes a guy, she's unlikely to deny the natural progression of the relationship. But, when you make it look like a milestone event, she'll pause.

If you're spending all your time together, and not dating other people... congratulations. She's your girlfriend. And nothing really needs to be said at all.

If you're comfortable with each other, things are getting hot and heavy, and neither of you have real mental or moral barriers... sex is going to happen.

Want her to meet your parents? When your parents are having an event, invite her along.

Don't feel like doing any of these things yet? Don't force it. That's guaranteed to make you both uncomfortable.

If she refuses? It's rare, but, when it happens, don't let it hurt you. Just say, "I understand", and let it go. You can always try again later.

But, most of the time... women won't get weird unless they feel like you're forcing something, or you otherwise make her think it should.